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twitter.com/mimi_intheworld:

    stfueverything:

    It’s pretty amazing that all a woman has to do is tell a dude to stfu or spit on a dude for her to be considered a man-hater and therefore any threats sent to her or violence used on her is totally justified. 

    But those same dudes sending the threats and/or using violence towards the women that spit on or told any dude to stfu, are not considered women-haters. 

    — 18 hours ago with 122 notes
    #mra 
    "I found out David Bowie likes it today. He’s obsessed with it. That is f***ing cool."
    Mark Gatiss, on Sherlock. (via kinklock)

    (Source: cumberbatchweb, via modernpemberlymemoirs)

    — 19 hours ago with 3377 notes
    #Bowie  #sherlock  #gatiss  #There's a trio of names for your awesome-meter 

    janetmock:

    Janet Mock on Beyoncé’s feminism.

    We can be sexual, sexy and flawless while advocating and fighting and educating and uplifting and critiquing and challenging and giving and everything.

    (Source: thequeenbey, via wilwheaton)

    — 1 day ago with 65142 notes
    #feminism  #beyonce  #janet mock 
    "

    When [an abusive man] tells me that he became abusive because he lost control of himself, I ask him why he didn’t do something even worse. For example, I might say, “You called her a fucking whore, you grabbed the phone out of her hand and whipped it across the room, and then you gave her a shove and she fell down. There she was at your feet where it would have been easy to kick her in the head. Now, you have just finished telling me that you were ‘totally out of control’ at that time, but you didn’t kick her. What stopped you?” And the client can always give me a reason. Here are some common explanations:

    "I wouldn’t want to cause her a serious injury."
    “I realized one of the children was watching.”
    “I was afraid someone would call the police.”
    “I could kill her if I did that.”
    “The fight was getting loud, and I was afraid the neighbors would hear.”

    And the most frequent response of all:

    "Jesus, I wouldn’t do that. I would never do something like that to her.”

    The response that I almost never heard — I remember hearing it twice in the fifteen years — was: “I don’t know.”

    These ready answers strip the cover off of my clients’ loss of control excuse. While a man is on an abusive rampage, verbally or physically, his mind maintains awareness of a number of questions: “Am I doing something that other people could find out about, so it could make me look bad? Am I doing anything that could get me in legal trouble? Could I get hurt myself? Am I doing anything that I myself consider too cruel, gross, or violent?”

    A critical insight seeped into me from working with my first few dozen clients: An abuser almost never does anything that he himself considers morally unacceptable. He may hide what he does because he thinks other people would disagree with it, but he feels justified inside. I can’t remember a client ever having said to me: “There’s no way I can defend what I did. It was just totally wrong.” He invariably has a reason that he considers good enough. In short, an abuser’s core problem is that he has a distorted sense of right and wrong.

    I sometimes ask my clients the following question: “How many of you have ever felt angry enough at youer mother to get the urge to call her a bitch?” Typically half or more of the group members raise their hands. Then I ask, “How many of you have ever acted on that urge?” All the hands fly down, and the men cast appalled gazes on me, as if I had just asked whether they sell drugs outside elementary schools. So then I ask, “Well, why haven’t you?” The same answer shoots out from the men each time I do this exercise: “But you can’t treat your mother like that, no matter how angry you are! You just don’t do that!”

    The unspoken remainder of this statement, which we can fill in for my clients, is: “But you can treat your wife or girlfriend like that, as long as you have a good enough reason. That’s different.” In other words, the abuser’s problem lies above all in his belief that controlling or abusing his female partner is justifiable….

    "
    Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men (via seebster)

    (via wearejustfuckingmonkeysinshoes)

    — 1 day ago with 55005 notes
    #Always reblog  #abuse  #abuser 
    moderntoss:

September 13th is World First Aid Day. Give someone you love a surprise appendectomy.

    moderntoss:

    September 13th is World First Aid Day. Give someone you love a surprise appendectomy.

    (Source: shop.moderntoss.com, via guardian)

    — 1 day ago with 458 notes
    being in a fandom long term:urrrrrrrrrrgh not this shitty argument again we've covered this
    — 1 day ago with 168187 notes
    #fandom  #arguing?  #Who ARE those people? 

    bennysbookclub:

    It’s Mann-Booker shortlist time again!

    A real mix this year - anyone else planning on trying to read them all before they announce the winner?

    Reviews etc here: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/culture/books/booker-prize/11084002/Booker-Prize-2014-the-shortlist-revealed.html

    — 1 day ago with 7 notes
    #booker prize 

    darshanapathak:

    Raise your hand if you’re straddling the line between crippling anxiety and not giving any fucks about anything

    (via plantagenetic)

    — 1 day ago with 79485 notes
    #perpetually? 

    loodletooboodleroodlesoodle:

    mangomartyr:

    loodletooboodleroodlesoodle:

    santullianal:

    This honestly made me tear up. Imagining how great he must have felt that his planned worked and choosing that risk paid off.
    I also feel like him and the model have such good chemistry, they’re always so kind and loving to one another.

    Holy shit what did he do?? That’s rad as hell!

    Since the runway was going to have simulated rain, he wanted to make the outfit become colorful because of it rather than deflect it. He sewed dye into the seams and once the rain hit it the dye ran! Very simple but super effective. He was one of the two winners of that challenge.

    Absolutely brilliant. Holy shit.

    I want this dress please. I LOVE the rain!

    (via bloodmunster)

    — 2 days ago with 228568 notes
    #project runway  #Rain dress