Thich Nhat Hanh
PETER LANZA, in an interview with the New Yorker, about his son, Adam, who killed 20 children, six teachers and administrators, and his own mother during a gun rampage in December 2012. (via inothernews)
My brother hasn’t killed anyone and has (apparently) turned his life around. My sister hasn’t harmed anyone (that we know of) since she lost custody of her children six years ago.
My brother is a diagnosed sociopath.
My sister is a diagnosed psychopath.
(fine line. distinction is minimal-to-nonexistent.)
I got out of the house before they really began to display their tendencies. But my brother set the house on fire. Twice. Threatened to kill my mother. (Once. She is a scary scary bitch who Will Not Take Your Shit. In the very best of ways.) Pulled a knife on my father. Psychologically tortured another sister. Abused another brother. And the psychopath sister? Murdered three of the family pets and tormented the local wildlife.
Now, my family kind of has an open-door policy on just who ‘family’ entails. It’s kind of everyone who comes through the door. We are 10 children between the ages of 40 and…5, I think…and 7/10 are adopted. Whatever. (That’s really just a caveat to explain that I am not a danger to myself or others - I am related to neither of the -paths by blood.) Family is family, however that looks.
I can only count myself among the lucky ones by pure chance. So when I read stories like that of Peter Lanza (or the HuffPo [I think] article that circulated last year about growing up with a murderous psychopath for a brother), I don’t think necessarily that the parents or family did something wrong or are hiding some horrible secret.
Sometimes psychopaths just happen.
The family is already dealing with the trauma of what their sibling/child/parent did. Don’t let’s heap more shame and stigma onto the family. They have enough to grapple with already. And they’re not allowed to grieve in public.
Let them grieve.
Acknowledge that you could have been Peter Lanza.
I don’t know what else to say.
Happy birthday, media pioneer Clare Boothe Luce! Celebrate with her magnificent letter to her 18-year-old daughter.
I can’t stop laughing at this.
The alarming thing is how long it took me to realize that this wasn’t two gifs of Jamie Lannister.
Rewatching GoT today at work (I know, my life is so hard) and this is the first thing I thought of. Genius, I tell you!
… and so sherlock and john never met. the end.
THE SHOW WOULD CONSIST OF JOHN LIMPING AROUND LONDON AT VARIOUS SPEEDS
“Who’d want me for a flatmate?” John asked, completely serious at the notion that anyone would actually want to room with him. He glanced at his old colleague when he heard him chuckling. “What?”
“Nothing, I just remembered a funny joke.” He said with a smile. It probably had something to do with two flatmates or something. John didn’t inquire.
“Oh.” He responded simply, returning his gaze to his cup of coffee. After a few minutes of silence, John looked up to ask Stamford a question but stopped when he saw a curious look on the man’s face. He almost seemed horrified. “What’s wrong?”
“Nothing.” Stamford stuttered. “It’s just…” He seemed to be trying to get a look at John’s back. “I just thought I saw something on your back.”
A couple days later, John saw something in the papers. It shouldn’t have bothered him, really, he didn’t even know this “Sherlock Holmes” character. He just couldn’t put his finger on why it made him so sad to find out that the so-called “consulting detective” had been victim to another one of those recent suicides.
NO NO NO
John pauses by a police box on his way to the store to get some milk. He smiled a little at the old timey appearance of it. “They just don’t make them like that anymore,” he said, a little wistfully. He jumped when the door flew open.
"You!" the man with the bow-tie snapped. John looked around in surprise but he was the only one around.
"M-me?" he asked, half pointing at himself.
"Yes, you. Don’t you know you jumped the tracks? You were supposed to be there to save that brilliant ridiculous idiot! But no, someone dipped their fingers in the time stream and messed everything all up. I will need to have a word with this person, but for now we need to get you back on track come on," the madman said, grabbing John by the arm and pulling him towards the box.
"Wow wow excuse me I don’t even know you!"
"Nor are you supposed to! But I can’t just let things go all willy-nilly topsie turvey here! Some one has got to save Sherlock Holmes and It might as well be us, eh?"
"I don’t know any Sherlock Holmes," John protested.
"Yes, and that might be the biggest crime here," the man said and finally succeeded in dragging John into the box.
"He killed himself, the papers said, and…oh my," John trailed off, looking around him in surprise. "It….it…."
"Yes, it is bigger on the inside I know. Come on, we’ve got a flatmate for you to meet!"
(in which Moriarty somehow got a hold of time travel tech and fucked everything up and the doctor is just the man to fix it)
1. You need to begin by thinking about what you want your life to look like. It’s important to be concrete and specific here – not general and vague. Then, use that information to set clear goals for yourself.
2. Be confident and believe in yourself. There’s no reason why you shouldn’t have what other people have, or should be that individual you’d really like to be. If you’re willing to work hard, and to pay the price required, then you can have what you want and find the niche for you.
3. Keep your focus on your goal – don’t get sidetracked from your dream. You’ll have to keep on going and to push through trying times. Remember, the prize is worth the effort; you’ll be glad you persevered.
4. Don’t give into temptation to go for lesser goals, or to do something attractive that won’t lead anywhere. Don’t pretend that you’ll be happy if you give up on your dream. You’ll wish that you’d be stronger and looked at the “long-term”.
5. If you slip up – just get over it – and move on with your plan. It doesn’t mean it’s over. Get back on track again. The goal is too important to waste time on regrets. Your focus is the future, and what will take you there.
6. Recognise your weaknesses – and then plan to manage them. That way, you won’t be taken by surprise, and you’ll have some strategies.
7. Finish what you start, and don’t leave loose ends untied. You have to be committed, and thorough, to achieve. Being lazy or half-hearted will hamper your success.